Divorce is a very emotional decision. There are some negative and positives effects of it. If you think that there’s a more joyful future, and then it’s okay to get divorced.
Decision-making can be more peaceful:
Decision-making matters in our life multiple times. It can affect our life either negatively or positively. However, decision-making can be arduous when you’re married. It’s tough for me to decide anything by myself. Before doing anything, I had to get permission or getting things approved from my ex. Now, I can do whatever I want to, and have the freedom to determine anything by myself. (Olivia, 46, Northampton)
Separation can make you a stronger and better mother:
When we broke up, I felt that my kids call for a little extra attention and consciousness. It’s way easier to handle kids without my ex-husband. All of my focus was on children only. Now, I much happier and more assertive because I am raising my children more competently and I am a better mother.
(Emily, 52, New York)
Some transitions may disturb you:
You must keep in mind that you may go through some changes which can affect you. One of them which I faced was the unexpected behavior of my friends and family towards me. I lost my friends due to my divorce.
(Ruby, 41, Austin)
It’s OK to be divorced:
I wonder why someone didn’t tell me that there’s no shame in splitting up! It’s normal. I wasted like 5 years of my life trying to run a relationship and that’s worst. Later on, I realized the truth and get divorced which I think was the best decision of my life.
(Emma, 39, New York)
You will enjoy your independent life:
I understand how important is to be independent after my divorce. I learn how not to rely upon someone else and I love it.
(Harriet, 46, Chevy Chase)
You may regret your decision later:
There was a time after my separation where a tornado blew through. I feel so lonely and was very frustrated. On the other hand, I was facing numerous financial issues. That was the time I regret my decision. But as things are getting solved day by day, I moved on. I realized that It takes time to resolve problems and now I’m happier than before.
(Aria, 35, Milwaukee)
“Me time” is essential:
I don’t make extra efforts and ruin myself to make things right when we split up. I waited for the right time. I keep in mind that self-care is very much necessary.
(Lily, 29, Austria)
You can’t attend any family get-together:
You wouldn’t be able to manage to go to the family gathering after your divorce occasionally. But it’s not odd to attend them. You should know that you’re more confident and have freedom for your actions. It also will reflect your maturity level.
(Sarah, 45, Ann Arbor)
Pretend to be friendly with your ex:
After my separation, it was very difficult for my children. So sometimes I had to pretend nicely with my ex-husband for the betterment of my kids.
(Sophia, 31, Westport)
Your life becomes easier and less frustrating:
My marriage was going through many issues. But now after my divorce, my life becomes better and peaceful. I have more free time to take care of myself and I can handle things more efficiently now.
(Elsie, 48, Edison)
Your friendship circle will be different:
Divorce can affect your social circle for sure. Some people may maintain a certain distance from you as dissolution is mostly contemplated as a social wound. In this situation, you must know your real friends. Your true friends will support you at this moment.
(Alice, 24, Manchester)
