Most of the couples regret their decision of splitting up. You later realize that how much you miss your married life. If you can relate to this case and planning to get back to your ex-husband then you need to keep in mind that this time you have to pay more attention to your relationship.
To start over again with your ex you completely need to forget what happened before. It’s okay if you think that your relationship deserves a second chance. In this article, you will go through the pros and cons of getting back to your ex-husband.
Reconciliation is a good idea or not? – According to statistics
According to statistics, only 40% of the couples come back to their exes and among them, only 10 to 17 % of couples manage to stay together again. So keep in mind that dating again is not a solution. Sticking to your decision is the main thing.
Nowadays, almost 65% of the remarried couples get divorced again and 73% of the couples get divorced who get married for the third time.
So, if you really want to start over again then you need to be aware of mistakes you made before. You can beat the troubles only when both of you change yourself in order to rebuild your marital relationship.
Why dating back an Ex-Husband after divorce is a good idea
Breakup with the person you love and spend a long time is obviously not easy. Divorce might result in sleeping and eating disorders and can affect the human body in many ways. There’s no issue if you think that a second chance in your marriage can give good results and you can get rid of lonely nights.
You can remarry if:
- You realize that you were the one who made mistake.
- You don’t want to live a single life.
- You observe that your husband was better after dating multiple guys.
- You can’t move on and still, love your husband.
- Maturity made you realize later what is good for you and what is not.
- You forget the past and all the things your husband did which hurt you.
- Your friends and family still have good relation with your ex-husband
- You can’t see your children suffering and want to come back for the benefit of children.
- You feel jealous and can’t see your ex-husband with someone else.
- If you enjoy spending time with him.
How to predict whether dating your ex-husband is the solution or not?
According to the statistics discussed previously, there are many chances of divorce again so you need to be very careful and mindful this time. Be on the path where is no chance of mistake again and avoid going through whatever happened in past. You and your ex-husband need to find another way of treating each other and you both need to burn your previous attitude.
Don’t hurry and make a decision emotionally as dealing with the hardship of divorce can be very hard for you. You can go for the option of spiritual practices to let your mind make valuable decisions. Take time to balance your emotions and then decide whether your remarrying is a good solution.
Things to review before coming back to your ex-husband
What was the reason for splitting up before?
Take time while answering this question to yourself and be honest. Have a look at the factors on the basis you decide you get divorced. Can those factors still affect you after remarrying?
If you both broke up because of trust issues then think twice before coming to a decision as it’s difficult to gain the trust of the person again and again.
Your decision to divorce was clear or not?
Do you regret your decision of getting? Was the Divorce an Emotional Decision? If yes then there is no problem in giving second chance to your marriage. Many people take wrong decisions when emotionally not balanced. If your decision of divorce was clear and rational and was happy at the time of divorce then the decision of remarrying can be wrong for you.
Do you both equally want to be together again or it’s just you?
Remember that one-sided love always loses. The person next to you will only take advantage of you and enjoy being with you temporary. It will not last forever and again you will need to go to the legal office. Make sure that your ex-husband will be aware of mistakes he did before. Also, ask yourself if you are ready to be together again.
Are Both of You Able to Learn from Past Experiences?
A difficult phase always makes you learn a new thing. In the same way breakup can make you learn how you can fix things. The pain you face during a hard time of your divorce can help in the progress of your personal growth. However, before jumping into the same relationship again, make sure you and your spouse are now mature enough and will not repeat the history.
Are you both single now?
After divorce, many people try to date anyone else to move on. Firstly have a conversation with your ex-husband and ask him whether he likes anyone else or dating someone else at the moment. Secondly, you also quit the relations you made after your divorce if you want to remarry again.
Do you and your husband forget all the previous matters?
Firstly make sure if you and your ex-husband are ready to forgive each other. Maybe your ex husband wants to remarry you for taking revenge or something else. Forgiving each other is very important to restart a relation. There’s no point in marrying again if you both are still going to fight on things that happened before.
If you won't be able to forget the past as you faced extreme stress but still wants to marry your ex-husband again then you should go for counseling. A professional marriage counselor will tell you how to overcome pain and forgive your spouse.
For more information read our latest article on "10 Indications That Wife is Changing Mind About Divorce".
